As we drove through the mountains on our way back from our incredible honeymoon, reality set in- and I was so excited! I was thrilled to begin working on meal plans, decorating our home, and even the dreaded budget spreadsheets. I couldn’t wait to “set up house” and start living life together.
But then life actually happened. Work was stressful. My ridiculous closet a.k.a. boutique was crazy overwhelming to unpack. And the meal I had planned to be just out of the oven at the exact second he cheerfully walked through the door? Let’s just say that things didn’t go according to plan. I had grown up on Leave it to Beaver, and I had always wanted to be that kind of wife and fulfill this daydream. Ryan would walk through the door to a perfectly cozy home, and the aroma of an incredible pork tenderloin would fill the air. He’d walk into the kitchen and find me standing there with a chilled lemonade (don’t forget the mint leaf delicately placed on the glass rim). Dinner would be perfectly cooked and plated with a gorgeous flower centerpiece. Oh! And his favorite part would be me, perfectly manicured and wearing his favorite dress. I would welcome him into my arms and immediately make him forget about his troubles.
Maybe you’re laughing at me right now. But deep down, you’ve thought the same thing. Now that Pinterest is around, I know everything about your Superwoman daydreams. Your perfect wedding, perfect home, perfect closet, perfect workouts, perfect children.
We “know” this truth, but we really don’t: Superwoman doesn’t exist. Click to Tweet This!
We all know that woman who seems to be the essence of perfection (full of grace, a Sunday School teacher, always brings the most incredible potluck appetizers, and did I mention that she was Miss Alabama?!)- but she has a whole lot of baggage that you have no idea about. Spending all that time being perfect in front of you means that she probably doesn’t spend near enough time actually investing in her close relationships.
Your value is not based on your performance. Tweet it. Write it on your mirror. In your school notebook. Whatever you need to do to keep this truth in the forefront of your mind. Women’s ministry seems to put way too much emphasis on perfectly doing all the things society says a woman should do (Pinterest parties and bake-offs, anyone?), and far too little on actually tearing down the walls of baggage in our lives.
Stop feeling inadequate when school is so overwhelming that you can’t bring something cute to potluck. Stop feeling inadequate when the kids are so crazy that your organic Pinterest meal plan turns into you digging in your diaper bag for McDonald’s coupons. And speaking of, stop feeling inadequate when you don’t have the time to get three years of free toothpaste by hunting down newspaper coupons from all the recycling bins in your entire neighborhood.
Stop feeling inadequate!
Do you really believe that Christ died to cover your sins, and that you can’t do anything to make yourself holy? Do you really believe that Christ’s sacrifice redeems you, and that your life is no longer about your will- but His plan for your life? Do you really believe that you are valued by God, and that in the midst of your sin and shame, Jesus valued you enough to die the most brutal death in history? Then rejoice in that! Stop comparing yourself to other women and making mental lists of how you want to be more like your Pinterest newsfeed. Superwoman doesn’t exist, and I’m glad she doesn’t!
Don’t base your self-worth on how well you’re doing- place it on how much Jesus did for you.
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