My husband and I just celebrated 5 years of marriage- and when I look back, I smile, remembering lots of laughter, sweet conversations, the birth of our first baby, and even the bliss of curling up on the couch and watching a stupid movie far too late on a Friday night.
But I also remember what I’d sometimes rather forget. These last 5 years have contained more life changes than some people I know have gone through in their entire lives. New jobs, new careers even, new cities, new health problems, cancer scares- the list goes on.
Whenever life is falling apart (or even just changing), your marriage reaches a subconscious fork in the road. It’s not always as black and white as getting divorced or staying together.
It’s an everyday decision to fight for OR forget about intimacy.
I’m not just talking about, you know, “intimacy.” I’m talking about choosing to cultivate friendship with your spouse even when you’re tempted to zone out in front of the TV or your Instagram feed. It’s choosing TO argue when you’ve already dealt with enough today and it’d be easier to ignore the issue and let him win… even though that apparent victory will build a bigger and bigger wall between you until you wake up one day and don’t know each other anymore.
And it’s choosing to support your spouse and his or her decision-making even on the days you simply don’t like each other very much… Because when everyone else has turned their back, you realize all you have is each other- and if you’re not careful, you really don’t even have that.